In my experience parent alienation is the following:
1.Lack of independent thinking from the child imitating the alienator’s thoughts and feelings. Both cutting off the alienated parent when they call on the phone. Not speaking to alienated parent when in presence of alienator.
2.Destroying mail from the alienated parent.
3.The alienating parent tends to seek to curtail all communication between the child and the alienated parent.
4.The alienated parent is seen as the scapegoat. He or she is blamed for everything that has gone wrong with the child. There is no sense of ambivalence.
5.The child calls the alienated parent a liar and other abusive names similar to the alienating parent.
6.The child insults, shows disrespect, and humiliates the alienated parent often in front of the alienator.
7.Alienated parents are viewed as being despicable, faulty and deserving of being rejected permanently.
8.Parents who alienate children are seducing the child emotionally and will continue to do this while in control of the child, yet they deny that they are doing anything but encouraging the child to make contact with the alienated parent. Giving children the choice to decide for themselves, but not really giving them the choice. A choice with no options!
9.The child is made to feel guilty for any love shown towards the alienated parent. The child will deny any involvement with the alienated parent, fearful of what the alienator would do to him or her.
10.The child fears rejection by the alienator.
11.The child is owned, controlled, and indoctrinated by the alienating parent. That parent is viewed as all good, all wise, and all powerful by the child who becomes dependent, manipulated by them. There is never questioning that what the parent says or does is always right.
12.The child tends to paraphrase statements used by the alienating parent. The words used are often untypical of words likely to be used by a child. It is very similar to a cult type of indoctrination.
13.The child suffers from paranoia (hatred) inculcated by the alienating parent who promotes attitudes, intentions, and behaviors of a negative nature of the alienated parent.
14.Children who are alienated no longer know truth from lies.
15.The child who is alienated against the parent will often be alienated against the parent’s family also.
16.The alienated child tends to see themselves in a very powerful position, especially in the severity of their antagonism shown to the alienated parent. This is all done following the programming by the alienator.
17.Female alienators will often choose female solicitors as they assume they will be able to identify with them better.
18.Female alienators are often angry due to the fact that the alienated individual has a new relationship, while she has not.
19.Some alienators move away from where their ex partner resides in order to make visits difficult or impossible or moves to address and requests the children not to tell the alienated parent.
20.Sometimes the name of the child is changed to that of the alienator or the next partner to which the alienator has attached him or herself.
21.Frivolous reasons are often given for not wanting to be with the alienated parent. Even when told that if these frivolous reasons were removed the child will often claim they do not wish to be with that parent under any circumstances.
22.The child is encouraged to be with friends or play on video games in preference to being with the alienated parent.
23.A child who had a history of a good, happy and warm relationship with the now alienated parent before separation or divorce will fail to remember events in the past that made them happy. They may be suffering from amnesia of any good events due to the alienation process.